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					<description><![CDATA[她享受你的陪伴不等于她想要一段关系。把投入和边界对齐，设定观察窗口，必要时体面止损，避免长期内耗。]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>为什么你在约会中总是判断偏差</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[约会里的判断偏差，多半不是你不懂她，而是你用希望替代了事实。学会看行动、控投入、设退出条件，才能少内耗、少错投。]]></description>
		
		
		
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					<description><![CDATA[约会里显得没判断力，往往不是不够努力，而是把投入当诚意、把礼貌当喜欢、该退不退把自己耗掉。把重心从“怎么推进”挪到“值不值得继续”，才能少内耗、少错误投入。]]></description>
		
		
		
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